Going on a first date can be nerve-wracking and stressful. There are a lot of things and questions that you have in mind and you do not know how and where to find the answers for them. Dating experts agree that one of the best ways to handle the jitters of a first date is to have a plan before going to your meeting. Like any other activity, it is best to have a plan when going on your first date so that you can reduce your anxiety and get positive results. Still nervous? Don’t worry. Below are important things to remember when going on a first date:
Look your best
Let’s face it. Everyone wants to look their best on their first date. Who doesn’t? Would you come to your date looking like someone who had just come out from the bedroom or someone who is well-dressed and looking confident? Dress to impress your date. Yes, the first impression is always the best. So you would score high in the dating game if you would look attractive and neat on your first date.
Time is valuable, no matter what the situation is. If you are going to your first date, it is very crucial for you to arrive on time and not to make your date wait for you. Coming late to your first date would negatively impact your chances of winning your date to your side. No one enjoys waiting for someone who promised to come at the appointed time but never showed up as expected.
Be your true self
It is of vital importance that you show your true self on your first date. Don’t pretend to be rich just to impress your date when you are not. Don’t try to be everything you are not because it would create confusion and distrust once you are discovered. Be your own true self and your date would appreciate it more than anything else.
Do not be afraid to ask your date questions. The purpose of going on a date is to find someone who attracts your interest and getting to know that person. Ask questions about his family and friends. Ask him about what kind of work he does (not how much he is earning!); what his talents are? What his hobby is? Ask him about his philosophy in life, etc. Just one tip. Be careful about the questions you would ask your date so he would not be offended and think that you are being presumptuous.
Don’t talk about your ex
Talking about your ex on your first date isa death sentence.No one wants to hear about other’s people’s former lovers. Would you be happy if your date would talk about his ex-girlfriend during your time together? Of course not. Likewise, you should not mention anything about your ex-boyfriend, former lover, etc. If he opens up the subject and asks you about it, just mention it briefly and go to another subject.
Put down your phone
There is nothing ruder and more annoying than having your date checking his phone every minute for a message. Put down your phone and focus on your date. Make him feel “special” and show him that you are really interested in getting to know him than checking your messages on your phone.
Don’t fall in love on your first date
A lot of people go on a first date expecting to fall in love at once. You should try to avoid this. Give yourself some time to get to know the person before you give him your heart and soul. Don’t get intimate with him on your first date or he might think that you are cheap and easy to get. It is good to keep your distance first and gradually develop a strong relationship with your date than jump into the cliff with him without thinking of the consequences later.
Offer to pay the bill
Yes, you heard it right. It is okay to offer to pay the bill. Before, men were expected to pick up the bill during the date but now, it is no longer their sole responsibility. Women can also share the bill or even pay the bill entirely, if she would like to, provided that her date agreed to it. Times have changed. And the same is true with regard to going out on a date.
The bottom line is, you don’t have to be perfect on your first date but you can make that date almost, if not perfect, if you have a plan and follow the steps mentioned above. Remember, you must be your true self when meeting your date for the first time so that he would appreciate and accept you for being yourself. If you do this, you can rest assured that you would have an engaging, fun and memorable date. Good luck on your first date!